THX Episode 77 - The Journey to Myself: Beyond the Frameworks I Was Given

From the book, Living as a Cathedral of Awe

Transform The HX

May 04, 2025

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✨ Overview:

This piece marks the turning point — where external systems, inherited ideologies, and prescribed frameworks no longer serve as home.

It’s not a rejection of structure.
It’s a reclamation of selfhood.

In this essay, the author reflects on their path through institutions, beliefs, and identities that once offered stability — until they didn’t.
What emerges is the sacred and sometimes painful truth:
that healing is not about finding the right framework, but about finding yourself.

🌿 Key Themes:

Leaving Old Maps Behind:
The frameworks we inherit (religious, familial, cultural) often come with unspoken expectations.
Sometimes we have to get lost in order to realize they were never meant to hold our full becoming.
Frameworks as Scaffolding, Not Self:
Structures can support a stage of growth — but they are not the destination.
The journey is toward integrity, not adherence.
The Fear and Freedom of Becoming:
To let go of old frameworks is to face uncertainty.
But it’s also the only way to reclaim authorship of your life.

📚 Key Quotes:

“I had to leave the framework behind to find the form that was truer — the one only I could live.”
“The pain wasn’t just about what I lost. It was about realizing I had never truly been seen inside the systems I gave so much of myself to.”
“I used to think healing meant fixing the broken parts. Now I think it means becoming whole enough to build something of your own.”

🌱 Intended Reader Takeaways:

That it’s valid to outgrow the systems that once felt sacred.
That freedom often comes wrapped in grief.
That their truest self might not fit inside the framework — but it was never meant to.